| Hank Chinaski |
04-21-2004 09:52 AM |
Arab TV host goes public with abuse
http://www.memri.org/video/segment8_program.html
Maybe take this with a grain of salt, since the above is MEMRI, which is liked by the lgf guy, but evn this says the Koran doesn't authorize hard beating- first you are supposed to attempt to admonish, then if she doesn't change you are supposed to kick her out of bed for awhile- only then can you beat and you're not supposed to cause facial injuries- bottom line her husband's got some explaining to do-
And I'm just posting this Atticus. It could be a hoax, or just one interpretation- and Brazilian husbands beat shit out of their wives so its not an Islamic only thing. I just thought it interesting, okay, pls. don't call me a stupid racist fuck, okay?
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May 9, 2002
Program on Imposing Discipline in the Family: Hosted by Jasem Muhammad Al-Mutawah, Expert on Family Matters
Host Jasem Muhammad Al-Mutawah: Imposing discipline within the family is the right of the husband towards his wife, as it is the right of the wife towards the husband.............. .........The proverb says: The rod… Ah? The rod for whom? 'The rod is for the disobedient.' ...............The Koran states: First o all guidance, advice, and admonition; then, banishment from the bed, and then 'beat them.' When the Koran presented this verse, it did not present it for all cases, but for one case out of all ways of female behavior - the case of disobedience. ..........…We all know that Allah has given authority to the man, including admonishing and guiding the wife in cases of disobedience, banishing her from the bed, and then - the beatings. What is your opinion on the matter?…
Dr. Muhammad Al-Hajj, lecturer on Islamic faith at the Jordanian University: We in Islam see the family as an institution, an institution that must succeed. ...................The issue is who directs this institution, because two people cannot drive a car - there must be one driver. Islam has given the wheel of this car, the car of the family, to the man. The verse discussing the handling of problems that may crop up in the family is included in the passage discussing guardianship: 'Men are the guardians of women,' and then Allah says, 'Admonish those of them on whose part you fear disobedience, and banish them from the beds, and beat them. Then, if they obey you, do not seek a pretext to hurt them.' The order that appears in this verse is a wise order. It is not possible to move to the second stage before the first stage, or to the third stage before the second. The wonderful thing in this verse is that it mentioned this solution for the case of disobedience.
Host: Meaning, a specific instance…
Guest: Exactly. We are not talking about a man imposing discipline every day, asking any little thing of her, and she refuses, and then he banishes her or beats her. Such a thing does not exist in Islam at all.
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Host: And the admonition continues for a long time, not a day or two…
Guest: No, no. Obviously, the admonition cannot end in a day or two. It must continue for a significant period, during which all means of persuasion are exhausted.
Host: The admonition must be done with words, or the [husband] can use a cassette, a video film, a book, a meeting, a course, a magazine…
Guest: All these means are included in the method of admonition, which can include also enticements through money or gifts…
Host: He can get her an Internet program, so she will learn… ...........................
..........sometimes even for years, with her refusal and rebellion here is revealed the wisdom of Islam: another means must be introduced. This is the means of the not-hard beatings, and the condition 'not hard' appears in the texts, it is not an interpretation. It is said in the Hadiths of the Prophet that we are talking of 'not-hard' beatings…
Host: What is the difference between 'hard' and 'not-hard'?
Guest: Hard beatings are those that leave marks on the body or on the face. Thus, beating on the face is prohibited, because the face is a combination of the features of beauty, as it is said. It is forbidden to beat the face, it is forbidden to administer blows that leave fractures or wounds this is what our sages have said in their books.
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there is also a difference in how the married couple can discipline each other
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Host: Doctor, the Koranic verse directs the husband in how to deal with a disobedient wife while if the husband is disobedient, let us assume now the husband is the rebellious one, the husband does not listen, the husband is neglectful, and the husband… rebels! The wife does not have the right to treat the husband in accordance with the three steps stated by the Koran. The wife, as it has been written, is restricted to admonition and guidance. She cannot banish him from the bed, and she cannot beat him. Do you not find inequality in this?
Guest: No, I do not find inequality in this, because as I said from the outset, the ultimate responsibility for managing the institution of family is given to the husband and therefore when the wife encounters disobedience on the part of her husband, or negative deeds, there is no doubt that she must remark on them and express her dissatisfaction with these deeds; she can go to his friends, his relatives, or her relatives so that they will take care of the problem…
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then some commentary to the west- which I think is a pretty good point to chill the blame Islam crown (hi Sidd! )
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Host:...............................In contrast, they (edit- Westerners who question Islam's treatment of women) are without verse, religious law, or law, and despite this, every 12 seconds a wife is beaten by her husband! What is better?!
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and for those of you who have stuck through this, a smile....
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Second, when they come and say to us that Islam gave the wife the right that her husband will banish her from the bed, but the wife does not banish the husband - Who said so?! The wife, in two instances, has the right to banish her husband from the bed. The first instance is if he asks to have sex with her in a place forbidden by religious law, let's say the anus and the second instance is if he behaves towards the wife in an offensive manner during sex. Then she is permitted to banish him from the bed.
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