Dating Question
 

This is very good advice.

Make the invitation as specific as possible and make sure he knows there are no obligations, just that you want his company.

A New Record
 

I would never ignore you bc I find you humourous. The criteria for being ignored are 1) boring/lacks anything of interest to contribute; 2) is inherently annoying (like constnatly mentions baby and has sillly fake baby name that matches moniker and matching avatar; 3) being JSOFT or one of his many unfunny socks and 4) rages disproportionaetly out of control so that I can feel the anger emanating from the monitor. Think of this one as a restraining order.

You do not get ignored for being merely 1) opinionated, whther to my liking or not, or 2) being consistent scroll past material. THat alone doesnt cut it.

You are welcome to disagree, or even flame me (so long as it isnt outable).

A New Record
 

A person has to set goals.

About TITS, I speak only from personal experience, that of similarly-endowed family members (Hi Dad!) and friends/acquaintances I have asked. Laying on top of big boobs (your own, not someone else's which I would not know about NTTAWWT) can be uncomfortable and at times painful. There is just too much tissue there even if you have a comfy bed (I now have a very firm mattress but have had fluffy ones in the past). This is not to say that there are not big tittied women out there who sleep on their chest. I also do not believe that you must sleep on your stomach in order to be gregarious.

I wonder about fake boobies. I mean, they stand up like torpedoes when a wearer is on her back so there must be little give factor when stomach-sleeping. Anyone care to fill me in on this?

A New Record
 

How does wearing fur fit in here?

A New Record
 

Please tell me you're not related to paigow.

TM

A New Record
 

You bong-addled bulging burrito-assed bimbo. Try spending less of your valueless small-titted time worried with ignoring valuable contributors or outing JRUSS’ non-existent socks. Then sober up and maybe you could get a clue that I am not a sock. I am a singularly individual mostly lurking lawyer and occasionally poster with a lactating breast fetish. I am my own man and stand before milky breasts and this board alike as such. And the more that humorless ass-gnats such as you attempt to denigrate me and my fetish, the more I shall become a celebrated member of this forum. I don’t doubt that I will soon be getting pictures of female posters’ boobs via PM!

A New Record
 

totality of the circumstances kinda thing. one or two pro fur posts wont do it by itself. I am not reoperiing this can of worms today

A New Record
 

Lac Lover,

Her ya go.

S(just because I think the whole "you're on my ignore list" bit is pretty unimaginative and tired)D

EE --> DD
 

I was involved with a woman who had breast reduction surgery shortly (about 6 months) before I met her. I don't know if your (as in, those of you who are talking about the surgery in a way that implies you are actually considering it) breasts are as big as hers were, but I am happy to review pictures you send to me and let you know.

I will say that I think that she was unhappy with the total volume of the reduction. There is only so much tissue that can be removed, and there was significant scarring below the breasts at the "seam" where they met her chest. Her scarring went down over the next six months, but I don't think that it would ever be perfect. I don't know whether or not she expected to be able to breast-feed.

Her breasts were still very big after the surgery, and she told me that she had wanted them to be even smaller than they made them, but that they couldn't be reduced further. She was already having lots of pain and back problems at the age she had the surgery, and I think it was more of a health thing than an appearance thing. Her health insurance covered the surgery almost entirely.

I think that, if she were here, she would caution you to consider whether you really want to get major surgery when the benefit might not be that great. Unless your breasts are truly collossal, I don't know if it would be worth the scarring, pain and loss of function. If they are that big, the overall reduction won't be that huge, and you'll still have massive breasts, but with more scarring, pain and loss of function.

Of course, I am a dude, so I don't know as much about breasts, and I don't want to be presumptive and tell you a bunch of stuff. I'm just passing on the info.

Sleep positions
 

I sleep on my stomach, with one arm at my side and the other wrapped around a pillow so that I'm not completely flat. This is the only way I can fall asleep. Unless I'm taking a nap, and then I can sleep flat on my back on a couch or a bed. Makes no sense.

But if I'm going to sleep for the night, I cannot be touched. No spooning, no arm around you or me. No touching. Forget it. I've tried it a million times. If your leg so much as touches mine when I'm on the trip to dreamland, I must move. (I wonder how the hell I got any sleep in college.)

TM

Sleep positions
 

Why? What happened in college?

Sleep positions
 

Ever see Deliverance? Poor TM has never gotten over his backwoods camping experience.

Dating Question
 

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I agree completely here. The other question though is what response is to be expected.

This exact scenario happened to me back in the day. She invited me to dinner for her birthday and made it clear it was a low-key thing. I took that at face value, but got her some flowers and a small gift (come on, if you've been on a date with someone, there's at least something you can find that would be of interest -- I think I bought her a cd she had mentioned). I picked up the tab at the restaurant after minor protestations from her to the contrary. It was a nice time; I didn't think it was psycho or imposing. We parted ways a few dates later, but I certainly didn't think of the whole thing as moving too fast or anything besides the coincidence of timing of her birthday.

Dating Question
 

Thanks, everyone for the great advice. I have passed it along to my friend.

I was firmly in the camp of "don't tell and don't make it a big deal," but y'all have convinced me that if I ever find myself dating a new guy near my brithday, I might consider asking him to dinner.

E/O

A New Record
 

(1) I advise "watch and wait." The female body does weird things during pregnancy and the aftermath, and doesn't necessarily respond the same way in subsequent pregnancies.

(2) The longer you nurse, the smaller your boobies will get. If you nurse once or twice a day all the way to 12 to 18 months, as more and more pediatricians now recommend, the kid will hit a critical mass at which em's gulping down volumes of milk with each nursing session, even though most nutrition comes from solids at that point. Several moms have told me that kids at that stage just vacuum the fat out of you if they're still nursing, and there's no reason why they shouldn't. When my godson was a year old, his mother could barely consume enough fats to keep up with demand. If the kid hadn't unilaterally weaned at about 18 months, she'd look like LFB. (YMMV, and everybody has an opinion about when nursing gets squicky --- grandmothers from the 50s and 60s era will say with a straight face that the baby should be put on solids at four months, against all medical advice.)

(3) Reduce, or don't reduce. It doesn't matter. See NYT Magazine re: happiness equilibrium.