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making lemons
 

Glad to see your mood has lightened!

Death Question
 

I am not quite sure how to deal with this:

I think my friend just lost his mother a few days ago, but he hasn't said anything to anyone about it.

The story is: my friend (we'll call him "Al") was picking up take-out and chatting with an acquaintance to him, who is a friend of mine (we'll call him "Bill"). Al's cell rang, he talked to his dad, turned to Bill and said: "Wow. My mom just died."

Bill and I had drinks the next night and he asked if I'd talked to Al recently. I hadn't talked to him since the call. Bill told me what happened and said Al seemed a little strange about it and accepted it very calmly.

I called Al's best friend who, after a general inquiry, received a cryptic message about possibly not being available for a party this weekend because he had to take care of something.

Should I call him, or should I interpret this as someone who really doesn't want anyone to know?

Hard to argue with that concept...
 

Yeah, but they usually make me take them off first. Lately I'm lucky if I can even keep the garters on.

Hard to argue with that concept...
 

Stop it. You're turning me on.

Death Question
 

Call him. Just have a normal conversation. Don't even hint about it. If he wants to talk, he will. If not, let it go, on his terms.

Death Question
 

Let it ride. You don't know his relationship to his mother and absolutely no one has been told, so clearly he doesn't want to talk about it and he won't be insulted you didn't say anything or do anything.

Question about sex
 

Dtb's little incident made me think of the time that I met Leonard Cohen. I'm afraid he is and always will be #1 on my laminated crush list (not sure why, because he's old now and never was hot - it's kind of inexplicable). Anyway, I was at a little cafe on a beach, looking pretty good (if I do say so myself) in a bikini, and he was sitting at the table behind me. I was with my little sister and when I realized it was him I couldn't even articulate. It was dreadful. She told me that I'd better talk to him or else I'd be whining about it for the rest of the vacation. Anyway I got a napkin and a pen from her and got up on rubber legs and went over to him and then I couldn't even talk.

I think I managed to say something silly (don't remember what it was) and thrust out the pen and napkin and of course the pen barely worked. And all I remember thinking is that his current squeeze Rebecca de Mornay, this actress who barely before registered on my radar screen, was looking particularly bitchy and staring at me, and I wanted her to die. Anyway, after he scratched out his name, I said thank you and got back to my table. I felt like such an idiot. So uncool.

Death Question
 

Send a card if you're sure it's true. You don't know the family situation, and it sounds like they may not want to be put on the spot talking about it--out of shock or grief or if there's some other weirdness going on--but they'll expect word to get around and will appreciate your kindness. When he's ready to talk, you'll know--he will just do it.

making lemons
 

My mood is ALWAYS like cotton candy -- light and fluffy and sweet.

I even changed my signature line to something more appropriate.

this isn't debate camp
 

Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall

No, that would be me. And as old double B says, I guarantee you don't look as good as you sound.

From unfortunately recent experience, I will say to you the man is in shock and denial. Especially if it was sudden. Leave him be for now.

If you can find out for sure that she has passed and you want to do something, send a nice note. If he wants to read it, he will. If not he won't.

People mean well when they call, but really, it's awful. For the first few days you don't have the energy to talk to anyone, except maybe very close friends and family. There is a lot to do, and the smallest task seems to take all of your energy.

I found the phone calls horrible, the cards only a little less so. I still haven't opened almost all of them. I don't know if I ever will. I can't tell you when it is appropriate to call. I can tell you after two months it still isn't great for me when people call or stop me to talk about it.

And if you really do feel the need to call him despite what I say, just call to say I'm very sorry. Don't attempt to get into a give and take conversation unless he initiates it. Don't ask what happened. How old was she. Was it sudden. Just say if you need to talk, I'm here and get off the phone.

That will be a mercy for him.

Question about sex
 

Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick

No, wholly inscrutable. If you were talking about one of the Cohen brothers, understandable, but this, does not a bit of sense make.

Hard to argue with that concept...
 

I haven't tried it wearing the circus-clown costume yet, but as for the drag queen look.....

Anyway, offhand I can't tell you whether Galliano's Dior dresses create the mental result that he says he is shooting for, but at least he has that target in mind.

this isn't debate camp
 

You are such a little twerp that I should not be responding to this and TM does not need anyone, least of all me, to speak for him, but just to set the record straight, let me just say that not only is he good looking, he is good sounding too. And (my #1 crush list excepted) I have standards.