Good call. I'd also request she not be around for any post delivery needs either. Put it in the birth plan and make sure whoever is there with her will speak for her when she isn't able to....

ml.....(remember thinking it very um...disconcerting that the inability to speak during contractions was when they'd finally listen to you.....)

I thought a pregnancy wasn't considered "risky" until the mother was over 35.

That said, I got very depressed the day I asked my OB's nurse what the giant, red "AMA" on my chart meant. Advanced maternal age, my ass.

It's a continuum. I think 35 is the age at which the risk of down syndrome is greater than the risk of miscarriage from amniocentesis, so that docs are more likely to propose that test.

Then again, I've been known to talk out my ass nearly as much as Sebby.

Umm, Burger. I read this as a no-win discussion for you. I'm going to assume you have not yet procreated, and do not realize that certain there are certain discussions, including anything relating to dealing with medical personnel while pregnant, where the man's role is purely empathetic. Nod, do not speak. If you must speak, repeat after me: "It must be hard."

I post this only so that those men on this board who have yet to procreate can learn from Burger's mistake.

I laughed when I saw my diagnostic code was "elderly primigravida." Then I said to my OB, "I thought over 35 was the new over 25?"

My pregnancy was totally uncomplicated (thank heaven), and the little complication during my delivery had nothing to do with my age. The one benefit of being considered "high risk" was that BCBS would pay for any test - not that I took them up on it.

RT
 

RT --your friend should tell the nurse to suck it. I'm surprised she got that kind of comment from someone at a birthing center. Regardless, she really doesn't need that kind of negativity at this stage.

That age-focused risk assessment can be very self-fulfilling. E.g., I believe the c-s rate goes up with age at a rate that is greater than can be explained by age-related risks that would occur before or during labor and warrant a c-s (such as preeclampsia).

Chuckie
 

Some ketchup:

Congrats, SEC Chick. Gorgeous baby!

Confession: even though I just had my blackberry stolen from there, and even though the place smells like feet, I love going to Chuck E. Cheese. My kid can run around with other kids, I can indulge in the salad bar (I love that it has raisins, though I wish they had crumbled blue cheese), and hang out with other parents. I always end up holding other people's infants, so I get my baby fix too. I love their popsicles, playing skeeball and fussing over which prize to pick with all your "win" tickets at the end of the night. After about 5 minutes, the feet smell becomes unnoticeable -- a phenomenon that disturbs me greatly.

Parties at home: We're lucky to have a September birthday. Weather is always perfect and I use it as an excuse to have a big annual party for friends and family that lasts all day and into the night, too. After the first one, though, I learned that it's enough to just order Pizza and have a cooler with drinks and maybe some nacho chips. I didn't know Oriental Trading Company had theme parties. I usually wait until the week before and then whatever is Vietbabe's obsession (Teletubbies, Dora...) becomes the cake and the plates/hats. I hope this year it is Sponge Bob. I LOVEEEEE that show. The new episodes are awesome. I love Sandy.

Chuckie
 

Just because I wanted to have the top five slots on the webpage.

Chuckie
 

This behavior is frowned upon here.

I think someone needs a time out.

Good morning or whatever.
 

BNB....um....why are you seeing an OB?

I haven't been to CEC since I was 6. He scared the crap out of me. We will be doing home parties or maybe going to the park or other low key places.

Good morning or whatever.
 

I am not. But I was. When I was pregnant with the Brazenette.

No more OBs for me. Ever. I am finished.

That's what I thought...just checking.

I am doing some legal work for my OB...I asked if I got a discount on the next kid if I cut him a deal on the fees. He wasn't amused.

Who is next in line for a kid?

sebby's wife has been pregnant for 36 months now, so I think she only has a few months left before sebby jr or the sebbette arrives.

I think she'll be producing Alex de Little.

Erudite parents
 

Woman: Well, everybody poops.
Man: That's the title of a book.
Woman: I know. I was making a literary reference.

--Bowlmor Lanes, University Place

Overheard in New York