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B/c some of us have only been out of school for 2 years, have lots of school debt to pay off, are saving to buy a condo, don't have BIGLAW jobs and don't live in some podunk town (sorry Not Bob) where rent is $500/month for some huge pre-fab apartment...

Plus, Sunday football is much more fun with other people.

Plus plus, my housemate owns a 53-inch TV.

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Too bad that's too big for me to make my avatar. I'd want her behind the "The Dr. Is In" sign or whatever that thing is.

How on earth have you kept this a secret? I am not fucking my co-workers regularly, nor do I think any of them are, and rumors fly. Are you sure this is secret?

Maybe I am just more overt than most.

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If you don't have a BIGLAW job and yet are living in an expensive city, you are probably just an A. Because clearly you aren't G. Or G enough.

Um, ;) just in case it isn't clear.

No no no. You NEVER dump a person. Always be dumped.

Ask for some very wierd sex act and when she gets skeeved out, she'll dump you.

I wish somebody would fuck somebody around here.

I'm going to regret asking this, but why?

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I was pretty impressed with Lebron (though disappointed that Brad Miller didn't stick to his promise to give the kid a warm "welcome to the NBA" foul). That said, could the ESPN crew have sucked his dick any harder? Did they draw straws to see which one got to take the facial? And perhaps most disturbing for those of us who plan to watch a lot of games over the season, did Sean Elliott intern with Bill Walton over the summer? Jesus, Sean, shut the fuck up once in a while.

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Crap, I should have gotten my MBA...

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Actually, it's about 800-900 (including utilities.) I love talking to New Yorkers about my present apartment as well as my soon to be new residence. You can practically hear them drooling.


I think it is very hard to conceal an inner office relationship. No one has managed to do so where I work, and it has never ever been pretty. And when it was an older guy with a much younger (and much lower on the totem pole), the boss was not amused and I have no doubt it had an impact on him being passed over for a promotion.

But I think if you are really into the guy you need to sit down and talk. Otherwise just end it.

And in response to Mr. never be the one to do the dumping, I think it is a hell of a lot worse to do the freeze out, force the other person to dump you thing. That's just cruel.

I think that we all probably have all kinds of stories about (sometimes married) partners, associates and support staff getting involved with each other and keeping it a secret for a while, but not forever.

It makes for great gossip. In my experience and observation, if you really want to keep it a secret, you can. But many times people's feelings about wanting to be open about their relationships, wanting to talk about the relationships with work friends and just simply wanting attention lead to the relationship being revealed. I don't think that it's a mystery why it's always the same people being gossiped about. Some people get off on the attention and love being gossiped about. Even if they don't admit it or even know it on a concious level. If they didn't, they wouldn't keep doing ostentatious things in ways that lead people to find out about them.

Original poster, do you always fuck at the other person's house? Don't you think that your roommate has told his or her former co-workers about what he or she suspects? Don't you think they've picked up on the way you interact with your depo partner when you two are out with work people?

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We are missing the love.

Sex is great and the friendship is great. Without love, it's not going anywhere.

I wonder if we are preventing each other from getting into something more future-oriented with someone else. I have dated other people while we've been seeing each other, but we are only fucking each other.

We're GAs in the same class. Different floors, different sections. We live in the same building. We started hanging out together and it's easy to see someone when you don't have to buzz them in.

I'm sure that I'm violating some playa's code by asking this, but what's wrong with just telling the other person how you feel and what you want to do about it?

Without getting into the whole wife's tits thing again, the risk of asking for some skeevy sex act in order to get her to break up with you is that she might agree. Then you're stuck in the relationship because you got her to agree to suck you off while the milkman cornholes her, or whatever. I think this happened to George Costanza (or maybe Jerry) with a threesome, right?

a. Bad karma

b. If you dump a girl, its harder to date someone she knows later. If you're dumped, you're the nice guy who just didn't work out.

S(Of course, this cuts against my advice to ask for wierd sex as a method to get dumped, since you'd get a rep as a pervert with all of your ex's friends)D

Tell her you're into scat. That should cut the cord effectively.

But, really, you're right... this culd backfire, but there is a tremendous upside - you get to try all sorts of wierd sex shit with her. That ain't a bad plan B.