Doomed to spinsterhood
 

I know -- I was crazy to pass up the chance. But I have never claimed to be 100% normal or sane. On a good day I'm probably just barely at 50%. But there you have it.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

I think it's funny that it's the dads here who are getting defensive about this issue.

Deadwood parody
 

Exactly, so apparantly, a whole bunch of visiting and non visiting attorneys at my firm feel the same way and a few bankers on the street. Since I am way under 40, and not so ogreish, and I dress well, it is possible I am not delusional and some men do check me out. It never meant "HI, I meet the strict standard of Thurgreed's hotness tester-upper." I mean please. We all know he's like a modelizer or some unreachable standard. And if I was pleased a little weight came off so I got a little overzealous about the results. So sue me. I am so sorry some men do like curves, and nice hair and a [even he said I ain't ugly] and decent legs and well dressed. It's better than those ugly-assed tourists out there in T. Square.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Defensive about what issue? That women who stay at home to take care of kids are slaves?

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Should I have said "theory" or "opinion" rather than "issue"?

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

fwiw, we never had kids together.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Right. Why aren't the stay-at-home moms monitoring this board?


But you're right -- I can't imagine why I would be defensive (if that's what my comment was) about the notion that my wife is a "slave."

Pluto- out of here
 

No, certain members of the board like to continually point it out that I am a paralegal...but yet I am held to some higher standard than others that I have to be tolerant and rise above and not take bait when it is evident that Ok you're some "BIGLAW atty" that you are supposed to be somewhat mature.

That being said a lot of members of the bar have a seriously flawed personal life.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

I gave my husband his. He's happy to do it. Loves it. The kids are doing awesome.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Maybe this is a "grass is greener" view, but generally, assuming no change in lifestyle, I'd like to be a househusband. I say it all the time irl-except around my boss. If raising kids is slavery and my job is freedom, give me the fucking chains. Now.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Hey -- I have no opinion on whether you made a good or bad decision. Among other things, I never met your ex and I don't know you well enough to have any such opinion. (And I don't know you nearly well enough to voice an opinion on this subject if I had one.)

Besides, Mrs. Finch had the chance with ME. Way different situation.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Issue, theory, opinion are all fine terms to use as far as I'm concerned. My point was if someone calls your spouse a slave, and the spouse isn't there to defend themself, isn't it sort of your duty as a husband or wife to refute the assertion?

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Duty, schmuty. It's just a more interesting topic than whether short chubby Asian chicks with nice hair and floppy tits are hot.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Because I don't understand why people feel the need to take one person's position about how she would feel in that situation as an indictment of one's own lifestyle. Gwnc doesn't want kids. You and your wife -- and my husband and I -- obviously do. So we already have fundamental differences.

I'm not offended by what she wrote and I would love to stay at home.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

I wouldn't, though largely because the lack of adult human interaction would drive me nuts. That hasn't been a problem for Mrs. Finch, but I think stay-at-home dads have a lot more difficulty forming a network.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Nobody talks to me that way, pal. You best watch your back.

Has this topic come up recently on the board? FWIW, I say, no, chubby Asian chicks with nice hair and floppy tits are not hot.

Pluto- out of here
 

Ty@50 can't confirm or deny? How late in life is this going to happen?

I wouldn't want to turn gay at, say, your age and have to pay the kind of prices the rent boys charge you to ignore all the gray pubes* and saggy man-breests.

*sniff

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

They aren't floppy.

And my husband stays home. it ain't a life of servitude.

And I had opptys. to stay home, a couple of very successful ex boyfriends but I wasn't interested. As evidenced by my choices...

It doesn't matter *who* stays home as long as someone who loves that child does.

They do so well with a parent home. sigh

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Jesus H. I said "My slave never seems to feel so deathly bored with her work that she is willing to watch Round 43 of the ppnyc/TM battle for hours on end."

This is a JOKE. It does not convey that I took Gwinky's position as "an indictment of my lifestyle." I don't even take it as her "position." It was just a comment that she tossed onto the board, and I tossed one back.

I'm not offended by what she wrote either.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Let's see: one who stays at home and has another go out and do the work and hand over all the money is a slave? I thought that the master did no work and the slave did it all. Silly me.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

What is interesting is the animosity between women who work and are moms and women who stay at home. I think that whatever choice you make is cool. doesn't mean you are a good mom or bad mom either way.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

And yet, RP is going to get all snarly in response to my post, not yours. Just watch.

Car Board
 

Is it gone or am I crazy?

Anyway, I'm buying a new car. Here's what I've (sort of) narrowed it down to:

Audi A3 (i love it - wife does not like)
Saab 9-3
Acura TL
Infiniti G35 (2007)
Adobe
Other

Pick my ride. Quickly. My Grand Cherokee is falling apart faster than I can say "shitcockballsmotherfucker!"

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

I am not offended, I agree its just choice. Work v. stay at home. Kids v . no kids. Marriage v no marraigh.

But to call one choice regarding stay at home or work slavery, doesn't make sense. Unless the person in the role truly did not have an effective choice. Or was shackled or something. npi.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Uhhh, I think you're ok here but did you check with Mr. Thurgreed (Sir) before you posted this? I hear he gets real mad if you don't clear your posts with him beforehand. Real mad.

Car Board
 

Which one does your wife like? Get that one. Slave.

The car board is not dead.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Hopefully you've found it somewhere other than here at Lawtalkers High!

TM

Car Board
 

You need to upgrade.
A6
9-5
Pick a lower range mercedes
don't bother with a low end beamer.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Me too. Coltrane as Mr. Mom. I'm in.

Honey, if you call and I'm not home, I'll be at the gym or the gun club.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

I think that animosity is bullshit mainly fueled by the media. I have never witnessed it, and my friends - about 50/50 on SAH vs. WOH (or "work for pay," in the PC parlance) haven't really encountered it, either.

Car Board
 

Without nfh, what's the point, really?

I vote minivan. Maybe you should set up another poll?

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

I got the sense from some of his posts that he was losing confidence in the position he had taken. I was just trying to show him some support. A sort of virtual arm around his shoulders half-hug kind of thing. Was this wrong?

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

I would try to hang with the MILFs. Has to be better than the scene at my office.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Staying home is hard work. my kids kick my hubby's ass every.single.day.

camp/football/soccer/homework/baby [toddler] food/cooking/laundry repeat. I mean mix up the sports throw in some lessons or acting lessons but man it is hard work and grueling the patience he has.

The kids are sweet and doing well. I sacrifice every day to do it.

Car Board
 

I think we need a little more guidance here. What do you want, and not want?

When I bought my car, I was looking for a convertible with a real back seat (for the kid) that got solid reviews from Consumer Reports and similar sources. That narrowed me down really quickly (to the BMW 325 and a Mercedes that was too expensive). But I don't know how you got from a Grand Cherokee to the stuff on your list.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Him lose confidence? HA! I laff.

Car Board
 

I get to pick the car. She gets to re-do the kitchen...and apparently pick the car.

Doomed to spinsterhood
 

Betcha feel better about it all now, don't you? Go ahead, say it to yourself: "I am the master. The Master." I did it just now and it gave me the boost I needed to get right back to work on whatever piece of stupid fucking pointless shit I'm supposed to be pretending to care about to pay the rent.

Car Board
 

Don't you love the Environment? Take public transportation, dammit.

Car Board
 

I used to have an Acura. Most dependable car ever. Never had a problem with it.

That said, while I don't like the A3, I love the A4.

TM