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Originally posted by Adder ...Anyway, point being that I don't think I want to date her again, and I guess I feel kind of bad about that. In her drunken and depressed state last night, she keept pressing me for why I wouldn't date her, but I didn't really have a good answer. I'm just past romantic feelings for her I guess.
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Why should you feel bad about not wanting to date her anymore? And you certainly DO have a good answer and you said it yourself: you are past romantic feelings for her. You could tell her it is a mix of things, including the drama of your past relationship with her has left you: (1) realizing you don't want that kind of nonsense; and (2) feeling numb towards her and you simply will not be rekindling your feelings for her. You don't want to leave any room for hope there.
As far as your being friends, you are right: that's going to be tough. I suspect you will need to keep your distance until she finds either a new beau or new hobby or something and then you could try being friends again. One more thing: you say SHE dumped YOU so she may have this vision of you always being available to her when she decides she wants you back. Some people assume they can simply go back to people they dumped by "un-dumping" them and assume the only obstacle (to be overcome) is that the dumpee may be harboring resentment. Tell her that's not the case.
