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[ThurgreedMarshall]

Originally posted by Adder
So, late last night a get a call from a drunkin ex. This is a girl I dated a looong time ago, and have occasionally hooked up with since when we were both single and in the same place. After a substantial cooling off period after she dumped me, we have again become fairly good friends.

That's hardly a situation I can complain about, but she is single again and has apparently now decided that she wants to date again.

She says that she compares every guy she meets to me, and they don't measure up. I suspect that she has an idealized and unrealistic image of me, 'cause, really, I'm not that great of a guy.

Anyway, point being that I don't think I want to date her again, and I guess I feel kind of bad about that. In her drunken and depressed state last night, she keept pressing me for why I wouldn't date her, but I didn't really have a good answer. I'm just past romantic feelings for her I guess. Maybe it is a by-product of the first time we broke up. Or maybe it is that dealing with the continued drama in her life over the last several years has left me uninterested.

But, of course, she also made me promised that last night's conversation wouldn't change our friendship, but as we all know, that may not exactly be possible.

So anyway I don't really know what to do about the whole situation. I don't know if it would be better to just pretend that the conversation never happened or to try to extricate myself from the friendship. While I don't want to date her, I certainly don't want to hurt her any more than necessary.

Jesus Christ, man. Don't you know a disguised booty call when you hear one? She wanted to fuck, but didn't want to say, "Come over." You should have fucked her.

If she's not within booty-follow-through distance, then she's nuts and you should cut her off.

TM