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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I don't feel an atmosphere of sexual danger 24/7/365. I hardly think I'd be able to get anything done if I did. Tension? Maybe 1x month. Danger? Maybe 1x year, if that.
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That was sort of my point. Women realize early on that they (that is, most) can be overpowered in a struggle. But they know the risk can be managed, and they don't totally shut down over remote scenarios, like that the guy they're chatting up at the bar will follow them unobserved to their car. Tell a guy who doesn't know a lot of gay people that the fellow at the end of the bar will be following him to his car. He's got to overcome a sudden fear response in three minutes what women have been thinking clearly about for millenia. Men don't grow up thinking there are situations they might not be able physically to control. So they're more likely to improperly evaluate when a situation is going to get out of their control.
Men only realize this in the exact moment they're reminded they are sexual objects to people who can overpower them. The fact that they (and by this, I mean Neanderthals like Owens) are mentally unprepared for it means they act irrationally, where women are more likely to evaluate those risks and respond to them rationally.
A bit of this theory comes from personal experience. I was cruised by group of three men when walking home one night in a Southern town. They said nothing overtly threatening, probably just checking my interest level, but my first thoughts were whether I could fight and disable them if necessary. They were probably perfectly nice guys --- a little desperate, I guess --- but I was caught totally unprepared. Guys like Terrell Owens are thinking about these scenarios, too, and that's why they do the "Just fucking stay away from me" thing. They're not flattered by male attention; for them, it's flight or fight, because they're not in control.
