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Originally posted by mmm3587
This discussion also segues nicely into the "numbers" discussion, specifically how many is too few or too many. I am very nervous about sleeping with someone with fewer than 15 or so previous lovers, but I haven't met someone who number was too high.
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I will avoid the many jokes in this paragraph and just ask: Why would you be nervous about sleeping with someone with fewer than 15 previous partners? Doesn't make sense to me. Does it mean they don't have enough experience or variety? Does it mean the person has more baggage because they were more likely to be in a serious relationship?
Is there no number that's too high? I think people who post here are a little full of shit when it comes to this. Everbody wants to seem so progressive (this discussion has been had here before). But everyone has a number. Would you be comfortable being in a relationship with a 24-yr old woman who has had 100 partners? 200?
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Originally posted by mmm3587
I'm also curious whether sexual assault victims count that in their numbers. The current future ex-Mrs. mmm very having a very frank discussion about rape, and she was telling me that she didn't count the time that she was raped in her number. She wanted to know whther I thought that was illegitimate. I told her that I thought that was a tough call to make, but that she should do whatever she thought was right. Bullet dodged, I think.
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I would be willing to bet that women who have been raped don't count this in their numbers. I would think that when you're thinking about sexual experiences, you think about consensual experiences where you are giving something to and accepting something from someone else.
Also, I would think that the proper response would be, "Don't worry about whether including such an experience in your number is appropriate or not. Anyone who would judge you for not including it is a fucking asshole you shouldn't consider screwing anyway."
TM
