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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
Can you address both?
TM
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I'll try.
Caveat: I'm a fairly laid back person, and with the exception of other drivers and Republicans, I generally don't let things that I can't control bother me too much. I'm more likely to be overly excited about something than overly upset about something.
I think that a lot of the stuff that you may be bitching about/seeing is the result of bad communication. Something--either you or something in the outside--is bothering her. She either thinks it's stupid and doesn't want to bring it to your attention, or she thinks it's obvious and doesn't have to bring it to your attention. It's also probable/possible that it's already been brought to your attention and you thought it was stupid/trivial/not worth all of the energy that she's giving it. If that's the case, then she's pissed off because you're not sensitive to something that is really bothering her. The thing is, you have to know what's bothering and call her on it if it's bullshit and acknowledge it if it's not bullshit. If you're not talking about it and letting it slide, then you're going to end up in the same pattern over and over again. You're right in that emotions aren't necessarily rational, but they can be valid, and they're damned hard to control. How you
react to your emotions, though, you can control. And she has a right to be legitimately pissed off at something you think is idiotic and vice versa.
Further caveat: Guys always love my relationship advice, but they never want to date me.
