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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
You just reminded me of a question I had for women... How do you all handle those creepy desperate cats who hug you or try to make physical contact because they clearly need, but don't get much, female attention. You know the guys I'm talking about, right? I used to ride a bus to work where there was this guy who was totally harmless looking and would always hug girls and socialize about "realtionship stuff' with the women on the bus. He was clearly desperate for female attention. I would see him give mini-massages to chicks and when a girl was hungover, I heard him saying "Go ahead, lean your head on my shoulder." It was pretty pathetic, and all the guys used to look at each other when he'd do it, but some of the chicks just seemed clueless about it. Of course, other chicks who were a bit more savvy would sit away from the guy and cringe just like the rest of us. Is this sort of fellow common? I don't have one in my office, but imagine there must be many more of him around. Why don't women ever just tell the guy "Hey, quit the 5th grade touchy-feely bit. If you want to meet women, do it in the proper social context, and act like a man instead of some creepy asexual friend." Guy was so annoying. He was always talking with the chicks about his sister's relationship stories and how his dog was so cute. Yes, he even bought a puppy to meet chicks. Thank God I don't ride the bus anymore.

Some random guy on a bus hugs me and he's going to get slugged.

That said, I know quite a few of the inappropriately touchy guys. One of them likes to kiss women's hands. Another corners them in difficult-to-get-out-of conversations. Another is married to my cousin, and he always puts his hand on women's backs when he's talking to them. Two of these three are Eastern European, though I don't think my sample size is big enough to make sweeping generalizations. Generally, once I figure out what's up I just avoid the guy and refuse to be cornered by him, though sometimes that can be difficult. I also give heads up to other unsuspecting women who may not have the benefit of experience with the guy.

Every woman in my family knows how to rescue other women from my cousin's husband, and everyone in my group of friends knows how to fend off kissy-hand-guy. The corner-into-conversation guy is a bit more difficult, because he tries to incorporate other people and it's a little more difficult to extract yourself from the conversation.