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Originally posted by robustpuppy
I'd take that bet, but not in your favor. You don't even have the guts to say the right thing to a girl with whom you have an intimate relationship. You are a hedging, bullet-dodging, simpering associate wimp as well as a fool.
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Oh, that's bullshit and you know it. What's the right thing to say in that situation? It sure as hell isn't universal. How do you know how every woman in that situation wants someone to respond? It's not my place to tell someone how she should think about that. It doesn't matter what I think. And it doesn't matter what you think about her situation either. It matters what she thinks.
And, apparently, what she thinks is that she would, if compiling a precise number, count it. She thinks that allowing her rape to be a debilitating, continuously destructive experience other than just an unconsensual, violent sex act which she has dealt with and moved on from is the wrong way to approach it. The whole "rape only has the significance you give it" approach. She doesn't blame herself for what happened and she doesn't want to feel like a victim when she thinks about it, so she's moved on. I almost feel like she considers it some weird one-night stand.
I don't know if that's a pyschologically appropriate or healthy way to think about it, but that's not my call. It seems to work well for her and it's been a major subject of her therapy. So, fuck off, and let people have their own opinions about things and the ways they think of them. Your moral certainty is disgusting.
eta Which is different than the way I described her decision in my last post about it, but it was a misstatement... 
