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Originally posted by purse junkie
You can't blame even someone who really doesn't want kids from being ambivalent--there is *so* much pressure on women to have them (with the caveat that you can expect your career to be screwed, unlike guys who have 'em) and *such* a strong message that you're an abnormal, evil, unnatural, selfish shrew if you don't. Guys who don't want kids simply don't get the same type of mean-spirited sexist crap over it.
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I am beginning to suffer mightily from the ticking of my clock. It started ticking when I met the OddMan and it gets louder every passing year. Before then, I was completely uninterested in reproducing or parenting anything other than my siamese cat.
I am not yet ready to have kids because our lives are too chaotic, so I spend more time than I should worrying whether I will be able to conceive when things calm down or if that window has already closed.
We have made what is becoming a more common decision among our friends to have the OM become the primary caregiver when the time does come for us to reproduce or adopt. That this is becoming a common choice either represents that most of our male friends are slackers married to high acheiving women, that the tech market is still so bad here that their career paths look uncertain at best, or that the societal pressure on men to care for their children is increasing.
Even(for us, all of the above)Odds
