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Originally posted by ltl/fb
I am not not not defending anyone, but it hacks me off when people (a) live in an incredibly expensive area, (b) insist on having private care for their kid (because Junior can't go to day care? wtf?) AND (c) bitch that the amount they are paying their caretaker, which is not close to enough to live on in the area -- let alone support a family -- is too much and is almost as much as their own pay. Jesus.
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FWIW, the day care I've found that is acceptable in this city isn't significantly cheaper than the nanny, and the nanny isn't living off what I pay her - she wants a low-stress job with regular hours for pocket money and likes kids, but her husband, a contractor, probably makes more than I do.
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They have a lot of choices. (a) move someplace cheaper, (b) send the kid to daycare instead of having the expensive nanny or (c) have the lower-paid spouse stay home for a while to stop the cash hemmorage.
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If by cheaper you mean "leave the city and environs entirely," which is what pretty much what we'd have to do, we've considered it but it is sort of an extreme step, don't you think? People bitch and moan about how all sorts of things where they live are expensive (or otherwise unpleasant - Minnesotans complain about crazy-cold winters and Texans complain about the heat); moving is always an option but I can't see getting hacked off about people not doing it. Re: (b) see above and (c), we've considered it, but don't dismiss the "personal satisfaction" issues of having some outside employment - particularly for a man in this society, it is a pretty serious concern. In any event, I reserve my god given right to bitch and moan about stuff I can't change without radically disrupting my life. Or just to bitch and moan, for that matter!
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This is not an attack on trepadation mom or anyone else, either...
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Of course not -
