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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
I note that both me and my Fuck Partner are fairly tight with the compliments and I think that we both wish the other was a little less so. It is nice, however, to know that when he tells me I look good he really means it. Some of this stuff goes back to the way you were raised. And it is hard to learn to be the other way if you were raised to be stingy with compliments. But not entirely unworth the effort.
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I don't get the whole stingy with compliments deal. Do you think to yourself, "Hey, Fuck Buddy looks really good in that shirt" or "Wow, Fuck Buddy made a great steak" but keep it to yourself or do you not even think the complimentary thought? If you think it but don't say it, is it a conscious decision
not to say it or would it take a conscious decision
to say it?
Growing up, my family had a sarcastic sense of humor and was more likely to say something snotty than a compliment (except on food, my mom is a great baker). I am fairly free with compliments (sincere ones, not false ones) and don't really know how I got that way.
ETA: I'm with Gwinky and RP in believing that rarity does not add value to compliments. I can see dtb's and TM's points about ultra-repetitive compliments coming off as insincere or annoying, but there is a whole lot of room between rarity and repetitive.
