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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
People get married for a zillion different reasons - why they do it is not for anyone to judge. I certainly hope Atticus is not one of those "some people" you are referring to because I don't think he is that stupid. However, sometimes when he goes on with that cloying "married life = kids" dreck I wonder.
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Hey, thanks for the vote of confidence.
A goodly number of our married friends are DINKs. I have the utmost respect for them, but that has nothing to do with whether they have kids. They don't ask me to chalk up extra responsibility points for them because the world is overpopulated, or they'd make terrible parents and raise maladjusted children, or their marriage is stronger for it because nothing ties them together except love, or any of that kind of shit.
Saying that kids are likely in str8's future is a fair statistical observation, not a form of oppression, any more than the wedding ceremony's sly references to the wedding night are a tacit acceptance of rape. The people who jump all over a reference to "kids" in the same sentence as "married" as somehow a form of DINK oppression are being unnecessarily defensive because they're replaying far less subtle interactions with people who actually
are trying to goad them into changing their minds, and they're braver attacking strangers on the Internet than their own mothers.
The point of my response to str8 was that married life brings with it surrender of a huge quantity of control, kids or no. I'm not offended by people who issue "no kids" wedding invitations, but I'm tickled by what it represents to me --- a vestige of the fun aspects of single life in its funeral ceremony. This is a battle for another thread, but a wedding is not supposed to be a party thrown for the amusement of the hosts.
That, and I have yet to hear a truly useful parenting tip from an unmarried male on an airplane.
