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Originally posted by LessinSF
Baby Jesus fucking Christ. Kids do not have to be monitored at all times. Shit may happen, but that doesn't mean parents have to be overly protective. This "it's for the kids" mentality in this country is out of control. It makes me want to advocate the Chinese method of binding them up and leaving them by the river for eight hours while mom and dad toil the fields so that the child learns that not every cry is rewarded.
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The child is SUPPOSED to learn that when it cries, its cries are heard and responded to. It's part of the normal development of a child. Without it, there are problems -- both mental and physical (failure to thrive). I have seen internationally adopted children whose new parents have no idea if the child has woken in the morning. The child is used to their cries not being heard and doesn't bother crying anymore. Some parents have gone in to find the child awake, lying in feces and thirsty -- just languishing in the crib as they did in the orphanage. Responding to a child's cries establishes trust; it doesn't spoil them.
As for the couple on vacation -- I think there are people who do what they do -- leave the building/home where their children are and then come back and "check" on them. I only know this because sometimes when young kids die or are killed at home, the news report will mention that the child was alone in the apartment/home. Example: an infant was mauled by a Pit Bull in a Brooklyn apartment. The infant had been sleeping and the parents had only stepped out to have a smoke outside the apt. building together. And the lady who left her infant in a car to run into the pizza joint to grab her pie: the car was stolen, WITH the infant sleeping in the back seat. Bottom line: why take the risk? They could have slipped a housekeeper at the hotel some money to sit and watch tv in the hotel room with the kids. Even if nothing catastrophic happened (like collapsing cribs; intruders; light fixtures tumbling down on the kids), what if the kids wake up and cry and shout for their parents and nobody is around until another hour or two when it's "check up" time. Those kids were adopted with issues, so it's even worse to let that happen.
Gender of the couple: irrelevant. Sexual preference of the couple: irrelevant. Heteros leave kids alone, men and women both.
(Note: I'm not addressing the Ferber method where the child is made aware that its parents are nearby but the parents are teaching the child that it needs to go to sleep on its own. This method still involves the child's cries being responded to in some way).
ETA: Sorry for the long post. Too bad for you it wasn't about anal sex.
