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Originally posted by sgtclub
I want to be notified. I can't force her to talk to me.
Frankly, I can't believe that my position is more "parental" than yours, given that I have no kids. My guess is that you are exploring something here.
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Nope -- not exploring anything at all. I believe in this very firmly. (eta: SOmetimes, club, when people say they disagree with you, it's not to make conversation, and it's not dishonest, and it's not motivated by some ugly hidden ideology. You consistently seem unable to grasp that.)
If my daughter (hypothetical at the moment, but not for long) wanted an abortion, I hope to hell that she would talk to me about it.
But if I'd been born a girl, and I had to have an abortion, I would not have told my parents. And if I had been required to, I don't know what I would have done -- but the chances are good I would have been thrown out of the house, if they had found out. Or forced to keep the baby I didn't want.
Or, I could have gone to a judge and hoped to prove, somehow, that although I'd never reported any physical abuse by my parents I had in fact suffered such abuse, and that such abuse was particularly drastic when my parents began to think I might be having sex, and if you threw pregnancy and abortion into the mix it would be a particularly explosive situation. And maybe the judge would believe that from a 16 yo pregnant girl about her well respected, professional parents (who just happened to have some dirty laundry that never got washed out in public).
If I'm a shitty enough parent to put my daughter in the position where she doesn't feel she can or should discuss this -- or any other major decision -- with me, then that is my problem, and probably my fault. I don't think the government is capable of fixing that lack of communication, trust, whatever in my family. And I don't want the government to try.
