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Originally posted by Atticus Grinch
I've never met anyone who's said "shoulda had a doula" or "shouldn'ta had a doula." No harm in it.
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I ended up wishing I'd had a doula the first time. My husband is wonderful, and he went to all the Bradley classes with me, but our relationship is not structured in such a way (and his personality is not such) that he can take charge and tell me what to do, which is what I really needed during hard labor and transition. My mom was a good leg holder (better than my husband), but it would have been even better to have someone there who was a little more active before the pushing stage, encouraging different positions, telling me to go ahead and throw up (it's very productive in labor), etc.
That reminds me--I need to start looking for one.
Oh, and btw, it's a boy, and a big strapping one to boot. We know exactly when he was conceived (since it happened in a petri dish), but the ultrasound tech said based on his size she would have given him a due date about 10 days earlier. I'm a little sad I'll almost surely never have a girl, but I'll just have to take my nieces shopping a lot.
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