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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
It makes me sad that Mark Twain killed the board.
In an effort to make up for it, a scenario:
Couple in social group breaks up in mid-March. He (Guy A) is one of the primary centers of the group (has the big parties, knows everyone, organizes events). She's a pretty amazing woman. Gorgeous, smart, has a pretty successful business. Due to overlapping friends, major efforts have been made to keep hostilities to a minimum. He encourages everyone to stay friends with her and vice versa. I love them independently of each other and think it was probably a good idea for them to break up given their personality quirks (i.e. he flirts with everything that walks, and she has inexplicable insecurities).
Two weeks ago a guy (Guy B) in the group asks her out. She says yes and they've been dating since then. I saw them together at a party on Friday, though I thought they were there as friends, because frankly, I think he's way out of her league. Saturday, Guy B tells Guy A that he's dating ex. Doesn't exactly go over well.
Guy B was brought into the group by the Guy A. Invited to a lot of parties, introduced to a lot of people, etc. Guy A has gone through a lot of shit in the last six months, including the death of a parent, another close family death, and breakup of longstanding relationship. Guy B knew all about this, and in fact got drunk with Guy A the night of a particularly painful funeral.
The rumor mills have been flying, and Guy B has declined a lot of lot of party invitations in the last two days (including my birthday party).
Questions:
1.) Should Guy B have made a move on Guy A's ex? Should he have waited longer?
2.) Should Guy B have told Guy A about the move on his ex earlier? (Note: Guy A was in Mexico the first week that they were dating.)
3.) Should Guy B expect to be cut out of Guy A's life (and possibly social circle) because of moving in on Guy A's ex?
4.) Should Guy B have apologized to Guy A about his actions?
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Guy B should send Guy A a fifth of his favorite booze and a note saying: "I know you're in pain but you're also an idiot. May you drink and forget."
Guy A should drink and forget. Women B and C in Group should comfort Guy A to help him forget.
Of course, if Guy A didn't put down his paintbrush, none of this would have ever happened.
