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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
It makes me sad that Mark Twain killed the board.
In an effort to make up for it, a scenario:
Couple in social group breaks up in mid-March. He (Guy A) is one of the primary centers of the group (has the big parties, knows everyone, organizes events). She's a pretty amazing woman. Gorgeous, smart, has a pretty successful business. Due to overlapping friends, major efforts have been made to keep hostilities to a minimum. He encourages everyone to stay friends with her and vice versa. I love them independently of each other and think it was probably a good idea for them to break up given their personality quirks (i.e. he flirts with everything that walks, and she has inexplicable insecurities).
Two weeks ago a guy (Guy B) in the group asks her out. She says yes and they've been dating since then. I saw them together at a party on Friday, though I thought they were there as friends, because frankly, I think he's way out of her league. Saturday, Guy B tells Guy A that he's dating ex. Doesn't exactly go over well.
Guy B was brought into the group by the Guy A. Invited to a lot of parties, introduced to a lot of people, etc. Guy A has gone through a lot of shit in the last six months, including the death of a parent, another close family death, and breakup of longstanding relationship. Guy B knew all about this, and in fact got drunk with Guy A the night of a particularly painful funeral.
The rumor mills have been flying, and Guy B has declined a lot of lot of party invitations in the last two days (including my birthday party).
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Translation: Wish me happy birthday.
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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
Questions:
1.) Should Guy B have made a move on Guy A's ex? Should he have waited longer?
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He didn't have to wait longer, but since he didn't, he had to ask Guy A if it was okay (or at least inform him beforehand) if he asked his ex out. Those are the rules. If they had been broken up for years and Guy A and Guy B aren't close, then he could date her without asking or informing, but that shit ain't cool.
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2.) Should Guy B have told Guy A about the move on his ex earlier? (Note: Guy A was in Mexico the first week that they were dating.)
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See above.
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3.) Should Guy B expect to be cut out of Guy A's life (and possibly social circle) because of moving in on Guy A's ex?
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Yep. But he already weighed her hotness against Guy A's frienship and hotness seems to have won. How could he not expect it? Who wants to hang out with the guy who's fucking your ex (especially when they'll both probably be at your parties)?
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4.) Should Guy B have apologized to Guy A about his actions?
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Definitely. Especially if he wants back in.
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