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Originally posted by robustpuppy
I was assuming that the relationship was over. I didn't think of the real issue as loyalty or wanting the person back -- it's that perhaps the only thing worse than thinking about your ex fucking someone else is thinking about your ex telling her new boyfriend all about how badly you sucked. I also don't think that these people are fungible dating units and assume they really liked each other.
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I think you're wrong. I don't think her talking to him has anything to do with it. As for the fungible dating units concept, again, there are far too many people out there to date. Is this person so special that you need to stomp on a friendship to be with her? Probably not. If she is, then recognize what you are doing and don't expect to be welcomed back into the party circuit your friend runs with open arms.
Asking out a friend's gf after two weeks or two months of them being broken up is fucked up and selfish. If she is that important and you are that into her, at the very least, you should have the balls to tell your friend that you want to date her. And that's without adding the horrible time Guy A was having that Guy B knew about when he was putting the moves on the girl. Jesus.
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Originally posted by robustpuppy
I don't imagine anybody here thinks it won't or "shouldn't" affect the friendship between the two guys. Nobody said Guy A should still be B's close friend afterward. I thought it was more about whether what Guy B had done was wrong or whether he deserved to be an outcast because of it.
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What is the distinction you're drawing? Guy A should get over it and invite Guy B to all of his parties and not worry about seeing his ex with his friend when he shows up? What exactly do you mean by "outcast?" Shit, it would be worse if Guy B broke up with the gf. Then you really wouldn't want him at your party because he'd probably have designs on whoever you and your friends are currently dating.
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