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Originally posted by nononono
Of course I don't, and yes, I expected that to be an answer. Of course I don't have a counter to it, which is fine by me.

(Birth defects or "slowness" comes in a lot of variations, just as an aside).

If we're assuming severe birth defects here - I would never, ever want to have that happen to a child of mine, and when I got back a test result that led to an amnio (no problems, thank God - I'm not posting a personal story), I certainly felt I could not handle a severely disabled child. Wouldn't want to, couldn't, whatever. Pretty sure what I would do. Having had the benefit of a few years as a parent, though, what you think you can or are willing to handle really often does morph. No, ltl/fb, not transformed through the magic of childbirth, but it shifts. If you know it won't, then you're right not to go down that road at all.

2. In part. I have had a friend and a close relative face the issue of a catastrophically disabled unborn child and what to do with it. I offered no advice, because I didn't think it was my place. I just tried to be understanding and supportive. It did cause me to be close enough to the issue to think through what I would do and maybe through the magic of my other parenthoods I decided I couldn't take the unborn child out, if I had to deal with it. Sometimes tests are wrong, sometimes technology changes. Life with kids is never perfect, lots can go wrong. For me I choose the culture of life. In honour of Terri Schiavo, the martyr.