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Originally posted by nononono
Yes, and apparently you would be surprised to know I have a similar perspective ("just because I relate my own story doesn't mean I'm judging yours"). But do recognize that it can sound different coming from someone who hasn't actually been there, and that these issues in particular sometimes hit women in particularly personal ways. For the record, I wasn't *personally* bothered by what you said or implied, feeling both very happy about my epis and nursing for a collective almost 2 years. But do understand that when you say nursing will be "like falling off a log," I may say, "that's crap." I didn't have it as bad as many, and I chose to stay with it, and yes it was easy after 3 months or so, but I'd never give that kind of blanket statement, because I know better. Depends on your definition of easy, I guess, but saying so, especially if you haven't done it, is, as they say, Not Helpful.
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What I said is that for 90% of woman it becomes as easy as falling off a log. I was never very good at math, but I think that leaves open the possibility that for some women it never gets even a little bit easier. Those women should --- and I use "should" here in a very gentle sense, since I have never "been there" in the sense that you seem to require --- bottle feed. I give them my permission to do so without regret or remorse. I'm a giver. The others for whom it gets only slightly easier but never as easy as falling off a log are also free to make whatever decisions they like. But I think we're in basic agreement that you should proceed between Week 1 and Week 6 under the assumption that you'll someday find it easy, rather than assume that you never will.
I know nothing about you IRL,* like whether you're a single mom, but you'd best believe I have "been there" in whatever pitiful, secondary sense men can participate in the delivery, care for and rearing of their own children. Either you have my deserved sympathy for going this alone, or you're the one being a pompous jackass about who has valid input to offer on parenting issues. Someone should tell Dr. Sears that he's full of shit, too.
*You may be a sock for an FB poster who doesn't want it known she has kids for outability reasons. If this is the case, I may know something about you IRL, but I don't know that I know.
