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[robustpuppy]

From the Ask Amy advice column:

Dear Amy:

Your advice to the man who wanted to ask a stripper on a date was a bit off. You suggested that the stripper only expressed affection and love for him because she wanted his money.

This is so offensive!

What you effectively said was that exotic dancers are not real people, and that they are incapable of having emotions and falling in love, and only care about money.

You were right to caution the man that, given the context, the woman might have expressed her affection as a way to continue a stream of income. But, like anyone else, she may have developed sincere love and affection for the man who wrote to you. There is only one way to find out, and that is to ask her.

There is nothing like regret, and it is better for a guy to try and fail than to wonder 10 years from now what might have been.

S in Maryland

My advice to the man who wondered if he should ask a stripper out was to remember that the stripper's first job is to separate a man from his money. He presented evidence that she was stringing him along (he had been a faithful client for more than a year and had already told her that he loved her.)

I know that patrons of strip clubs would love to think that all strippers are just hardworking entertainers working their way through medical school while they look for love at the end of the runway, but stripping is more lucrative if patrons believe that the dancers are sexually or romantically interested in them. Don't fall for it.