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Originally posted by evenodds
Honey, men and women find different things attractive. Just because we're not attracted to the same things doesn't mean we feel threatened.
I am in my early 30s so I have a bit of wisdom about appearance. Looks fade, unless you pay a fortune for maintenance. I am related to a gorgeous woman in her early 50s who spends 3-5 hours a day exercising, spends more on trainers than almost all of you make in a year, and who routinely get injected and peeled and tightened, and is still going through an awful divorce. I'd rather have my self-esteem than her hot body.
I am not threatened by a hot woman unless she is actively chasing the OM -- in other words, unless she is actually threatening me.
The trashy thing does nothing for me. While I admire (some) strippers bodies, I have never thought damn, I wish I looked like that. I once thought that fake breasts would be a good idea so I would never have to wear a bra again . . . until I saw an MTV True Life that was so horrifying I cannot rid myself of the image on the surgery table and the pain of the recovery room.
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Gotcha. You can say "I'm not attracted to that," but that's different than saying "That's fucking ugly - what kind of person would do that???" and being judgmental. You do that and you betray an insecurity which deserves to be outed by everyone w/in earshot of the comment.
My wife has a fat friend who bitches about how all of the girls in the group are too skinny. I always reply politely "Well, they're very active" when what i really want to say is "You'd be skinny too if you'd fucking join a gym and stop being such a slob."
A friend of mine complains that he can't get laid and says all other guys have unfair advantages over him (money, looks, rap, etc...). I try to get him to go to the gym. I try to get him to meet ladies. Hell, I try everything to get him out and "in the game." Eventually I gave up and said "Fuck you, if you won't change your appearance and personaility you'll never meet a chick." He didn't like it, but he knows not to bitch around me anymore.
