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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
No, this is not Annoying at all. Debate is good.
I will take your point and Thurgreed's and just add this: fwiw, I don't think I have solicited any comments on my appearance in a long time from men because I think most of them subscribe to your theory. So that is why, if I really cared, I would go to my female friends. One in particular. She is the only person I will shop with because she's the only person I know who will be completely honest with me about whether something looks good or looks like shit. (I suppose I would also go to TM because he also would give it to me straight). I just think that honesty has its place.
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Once in awhile my wife asks if she looks good in an outfit that she is thinking of wearing that night. I dread this.
If I don't like the way she looks in something, I'm honest but gentle and positive. So, I don't say "ew" or "no" or "you look like a fat stumpy Asian chick with floppy tits." I say something like "why don't you were ..... instead -- that'd look really good." And that's fine with her.
The part I dread is when I say she does look good. Because inevitably she thinks I'm being "nice" (i.e., lying), or maybe she only asked my opinion because she already had doubts. And this leads to endless outfit changes, would this look better, how about that....
This is as high-maintenance as she gets, which is basically nothing. But still -- don't ask me if you don't really care about the answer.
