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Originally posted by patentparanyc
I've met a fair amount of people as well, and I've gotta say he was not one who put me at ease instantly with his warmth and personable amiability and "great sense of humor" I'm married and and old fart but we had little in common little chemisty on an interpersonal level and by the end both of us were like gee, the train, gee banana republic until my next train.
That is a contributing factor to why I flatlined. We both did really, he's not my hypothetical type. I like down to earth gregarious funny smooth types, BSDs with all the right lines that type of smoove talker. he was too into being edgy. I also like polite. I can take rude or shocking or bawdy only if he's my type plenty of people I work with say crazy things to me and we laugh. I consider myself a shrewd judge of character and I've gotta say I think he has issues.
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I think you flatlined because he didn't say what you thought he would say. I think that your impression of him and his of you was doomed for failure from the very beginning of this hairbrained scheme because of the contrived nature of the meeting. You didn't meet because you thought he was interesting enough and he thought you were interesting enough based off of your relative postings, which is how most people decide to meet IRL off the internet. You met because you wanted to prove something to him (and the board) that you ultimately couldn't prove to him. (What you proved to the board remains to be seen, but the board probably would have had more sympathy for you if not for the subsequent four days.) I think your meeting was too artificial for "chemistry" or "type" to come into play.
As for issues, we all have issues. This board is full of off-kilter people who I find to be a hell of a lot more interesting than most of the people I deal with on a regular basis, which is why I've put a lot of personal effort into keeping this place going. None of us fit the mold of the normal GA (whoever that poor soul may be). We're all rattling at our cages, and this is one of the only outlets we have. We're generally extroverts (with a bunch of voyeurs thrown in) who like our jobs to various degrees but have a lot of other issues and interests to keep us going. Our jobs are not the end all or be all of our lives. We're divorced or perpetually single or constantly moving jobs or hopping across the country or shocked as hell that somehow we became GPs or wondering how we managed to get older with kids and mortages but still feel pretty fucking young at heart. We don't want to necessarily become the GPs that we saw when we first entered this profession, but there are a shitload of expectations on us (usually from those very same GPs) that we do. Of course he has issues. We all do. It's the reason this board exists.
