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Originally posted by Anne Elk
I always wondered about the gay issue. The transgendered person that I knew of, was in a hetero relationship before she made the transition. The relationship survived the surgery, so does that make them gay?
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I know it is confusing, I find it so still, but I am learning.
Think of it this way. We have our sex (gender), and we have our sexuality. Most people are born with both the correct gender for themselves and heterosexual sexuality.
I.e. a man is born male, is comfortable in his body as a male and is attracted to women.
A woman is born female, is comfortable in her body as a female, and is attracted to men.
That is most of you reading this board, and most people in general.
Some people are born with the correct gender for themselves and homosexual sexuality (or perhaps bisexual sexuality.)
I.e. someone like myself, a woman comfortable in her body as a woman, but attracted to women instead of men
Still other people are born with the incorrect gender for themselves, but, they are heterosexual until they correct their gender, at which point they become homosexual.
I.e. a man who was born male and is attracted to women (heterosexual) but was born the incorrect sex and has surgery to correct this becoming both female and homosexual.
And finally others are born with the incorrect gender for themselves, but they are homosexual, until they correct their gender, at which point they become heterosexual.
I.e. a woman who was born female and is attracted to women (homosexual) but also born the incorrect gender for herself so she has surgery to become male, and is now heterosexual.
Remember though some people are bisexual, and you can have a woman who is heterosexual and comfortable in her birth sex marry a man who is heterosexual and was born the wrong sex who choose to stay together after the surgery. I don't know you would call that heterosexual woman homosexual now, she's probably bisexual, or even simply loved her husband, now wife so much that she decided what sex the person was didn't matter. I don't know how often this happens, but I know it does happen.
