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[Shape Shifter]

I want this woman to be my psycho ex:

I recently broke up with my girlfriend, who is amazing in many ways. She is loving, fun, and intelligent. Sex with her is amazing, too. But I lost trust in her over a couple of events, and I just bailed. The events are hard for me to talk about with my friends, so I'm asking your advice about what to do.

Event #1: While we were making love, she sucked my tongue into her mouth and wouldn't let go. I said "Ow!" as clearly as I could, repeatedly, but I couldn't say anything else because she had a death grip on my tongue. When she finally let go, my tongue was bleeding and sore. She sheepishly apologized, but wouldn't say much when I asked her what that was all about.

Event #2: Shopping for dinner one night, she indicated that the cucumber I had picked out would be useful for more than just salad. That night, we used the cucumber as a sex toy. A couple days later, after a dinner with my mother and my daughter, she informed me that the cucumber in the salad was the very same one that we had used for sex. I was upset, but she thought it was no big deal. I would have gladly eaten it myself, but I was angry that my mother and daughter were fed the sexy cucumber without their consent.

Question: Am I being too hard on my ex-girlfriend, who in all other ways is amazing? I miss her, but I'm afraid she'll just keep doing things that go beyond my boundaries.
Missing Her Smile

In your situation, if I hadn't dumped the psycho after she tried to rip out my tongue, MHS, I certainly would have dumped her after she fed a sex toy/cucumber to my mother and my child! So I definitely think you did the right thing when you dumped her, and I hope she stays good and dumped. A prediction: If you take her back, this girl will continue to do freaky, stupid, and/or disgusting things until you're forced to dump her all over again. Anyone who pulls the kind of stunts you describe is a mindfucker on a power trip: "How awful can I be and keep him coming back for more?" Stay the hell away from this woman if you don't want to see your mother and daughter choking on your sex toys ever again.

(spree: Savage Love)

She seems prone to overlooking my alcoholism, my cocaine addiction, and my stalking and to love me for who I am.