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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
It became mine when I turned 21 - 12 years ago - though I didn't know this until today. I don't really care about the policy or the money but I am VERY HURT that contact was made with me solely to ask me for money and that an attempt to cash in a policy that was supposed to be in case I DIE was made. So, should I die, they will leave me to rot in my office? Throw some potpurri under the door to absorb the smell of rot?
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ABBA,
I am terribly sorry to hear about the loss of your sister.
As for your father, you said you don't have much contact with him. But it sounds as though you haven't made peace with that, either (forgive me, I was in "marital closure therapy" earlier this week). As others have said, what you do may depend on what kind of relationship you have with him, and what kind you desire going forward. If you are ready to wipe your hands of him, cash out the policy, give him what he has asked for, tell him you want nothing to do with him (or not) and have no respect for what he did, and donate the rest of the money to something you care about or your sister would appreciate. As someone else remarked, your father isn't going to change, and this whole thing is a window into what he's about. Sounds like you would like a relationship with him, but it may never happen, and for you, unhooking from that and "un-hoping" for it could be a good thing.
