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Originally posted by nononono
You know, I was having a conversation just the other day about people who will hear 10 other people make the same comment to them and still dispute it holds any truth. I'm sure I don't need to tell you what the therapist involved in the conversation thought of that.
But anyway, in case it isn't clear, the confusion seems to lie in the fact that you say you are working 7 days a week for the rest of the year, in large part "for the children," yet it is also apparently for high-end accoutrements. There is nothing inherently wrong about appreciating quality. There is, however, something unappealing about substituting the latest, most expensive trendy buy for an understanding either of true quality or of whether it is appropriate to slave away as you choose to do in order to afford such trendy things. And the thing is, if you keep your mental orientation toward all those things really best afforded by my Junior League buddies with a nanny for each kid slumming it in a 2500 SF'er a bit too far East while the 7-floor brownstone on 78th between Madison and Park is gutted, then you will never, ever be able to have a realistic grip on what is a good idea or not for you. And having this or that flashy or even just fancy-but-known-only-to-you (and your imaginary friends) thing doesn't actually make you any better or worse than the other soccer mom in the three-year-old Orvis to your quilted Burberry. My point is, yes, you deserve to look nice and feel nice, but it's the blindness of "if it's more expensive, then it must be better" that is juvenile and social-climbing of the worst sort.
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Oh GOD I'm cranky. I'm not a social climber. My kids are in public school. I do not obsess about living in Greenwich or Pound Ridge. I do not freak about the "right" pre school.
I am not a trend chaser. Some of my clothes are 7 years old. I buy quality and I bargain shop.
I have been open with posters on this board about our financial reasoning....yes, some expensive things are perks but I do not work any more or less than any of the associates here on deals. And not that it is anyone's business the bulk of the money goes to expenses. It really is that simple.
