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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
I am dating a guy who just got out of rehab for drugs and alcohol. I like him. Here are my questions: Does anyone know anyone who went through rehab and actually cleaned up their life as opposed to relapsing again and again until they disappear? Is this an utter waste of my time since I still enjoy having a cocktail or 12 and now he cannot drink and hanging out with me may cause him to relapse? Has anyone ever dated or even have anecdotal information about dating a recovering fill-in-the-blank?
I usually date the raging addicts so this is totally new for me!
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I have a friend who lives with (and has a child with) a recovering alcoholic. I guess it depends on the person, but it seems like in their case, he has just replaced that addiction with one that has less serious consequences for him - cigarettes. He and his AA friends smoke like chimneys (with one exception that I can think of). I doubt this is uncommon (substituting addictions) because taking away the alcohol/drugs doesn't get rid of the fact that the person has addictive tendencies.
My friend drinks substantially less/not at all because of her relationship with him. She doesn't ever drink around him. I'm not sure whether this is because of her fear of a relapse or because she just feels weird doing so around him, but I would guess it is the latter. He seems pretty stable in his decision not to drink anymore. But she does now have a smoking habit.
Of course, this is all anecdotal. But it is what I know... (not much, right?)
