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Originally posted by ABBAKiss
I have curbed my drinking in front of him (and I am not now nor have never been a druggie, so that is not an issue). I have had at most two drinks at a time in his presence in circumstances when I would have otherwise had 4-5 during the same time frame and certainly could have continued hanging out at a bar/restaurant but did not because he was not drinking. He has told me he is fine with this but I am leery of it and feel bad. This may be my warning signal?
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Leery and feeling bad are two of my most familiar warning signals. I ignore them all the time, but still.
If you're curtailing things you want to do because of him I'd guess that eventually you'll resent him, even if he says it's fine to stay at the bar/restaurant and you insist that you'd prefer to leave. If, however, you find yourself appreciating a sort of check on your drinking then this may be a match made in heaven. I have been in relationships with heavy drinkers and near teetotalers, and have come to appreciate the latter a bit more as I have gotten older.
