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Originally posted by dtb
Well, thanks, though I think your first line was at least as sarcastic as what I said to you. It is interesting that you only have a problem with inside references when you are not in on the reference. It is true that I do not think it is very big of you to admit a "mistake" (in quotes because I don't believe it is a mistake to make references to things/people that you may know in real life) that you continually engaged in when you were more of a regular poster.
I hope you don't expect that I am obliged to say you have a point here, because I don't think you do. People make references to things they do and others don't know about. Big deal. Each person who participates regularly on here is in on some references, and out on others. Who cares?
Each inside-joke-complainer here has admitted to engaging in the conduct she is complaining about. So you're not in on every reference. BFD.
What I hear you saying here is "I don't make inside jokes, except for when I do." I still don't understand what the harm of making an inside reference is, and I don't think I've heard an explanation other than "It's annoying." Hardly a standard for altering behavior.
Even this is an inside reference. So are you annoyed by yourself now?
Rather than expecting the world to conform its behavior to what you* find acceptable (unless someone is causing you personal harm), it seems that it's probably easier to make your peace with the fact that you're not going to be in on every inside reference. There are worse tragedies.
*"You" in this paragraph meaning generic "you", not robustpuppy, you.
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All I said (or implied) was that they were annoying. I didn't say they were a problem. Furthermore, I never claimed innocence, although I drew a bit of a distinction by pointing out that I try not to make inside jokes that seem clique-ish. Sometimes I have done it, but I try not to do it because I find it annoying* myself.
I also never said that inside jokes must cease. In fact, my subsequent post about how hard it is not to make inside jokes wasn't entirely facetious.
As to harm, an inside joke is not inherently harmful (or inherently annoying, for that matter). An inside joke can be a vehicle for harm, however, and in that case, I would actually have a "problem" with it, rather than experience, at worst, annoyance. Furthermore, I don't believe that the only harm with which one should be concerned is harm to oneself.
Anyway, it sounds like you want to dismiss whatever I say as deriving from jealousy. That is not the case, but if you truly believe that, all I can do is shrug.
*I realize some of you may be very annoyed right now.
