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Originally posted by Bad_Rich_Chic
You are just fucking with me, aren't you.
BR(will ... not ... take ... bait)C
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No fucking here. Have I touched on some surefire method for getting the board all riled up? Maybe I should consuler my old fb notes. Anyway, I'm just trying to consider how to resolve two dilemmas, one of which I have already faced a few times, and one which I expect to face when I get married (assuming I can't get a fine lass like RT to elope with me):
[1] People who have only multiple, inexpensive items on their registries. Ok, do I buy two $40 serving sets or three? The most recent one was a wedding of a grad student friend of mine, attended heavily by friends of ours from undergrad, a lot of whom aren't making a ton of money. And the wedding was in a small town and couldn't have been that expensive. Of course he is not (or really, his wife is not) going to open the gift and think, look at this overbearing asshole, he bought us three serving sets, but I don't mind dropping $120 for a good friend's wedding gift, so what gives?
[2] I am not getting married any time soon, and I think that there's at least a decent possibility that, when I do marry, it will be to a professional woman about my age. And I already have nice (enough for me) silverware and similar house items, and I expect that any bride of mine may as well. So, am I some asshole if I only want to put stuff on the wedding registry that I (of course, I have seen how the registry process works, so I may be exxagerating the level of my involvement in the decisin-making process by tenfold) actually want, even if that means that there aren't a bunch of $30 dustmops and $60 table settings on there?
I think [2] makes me sound like some school girl, thinking about all the details of my future wedding. I think that comes from having been to a lot of shitty weddings where there was a lot of time to think about how I didn't want to have a shitty ass wedding. After you decide on no dollar dances(*) and the food and booze, you have to think about other stuff.
(*) My tally as an adult: 20 or so Midwest weddings, 10 or so not in the Midwest but in the U.S., 3 outside of the U.S. (one each of American couple, foreign couple and international couple). A couple of dollar dances in the Midwest, and one in one of the foreign weddings. They were military, though, so I think that implicates an already discussed factor.
