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Originally posted by greatwhitenorthchick
I am just wondering -- many friends of mine confided in me after I got separated/divorced that they never could understand what my husband and I were doing together, and that they never really cared for him and they never could understand what I saw in him. But all through the dating/marriage, they never said anything. It annoys me that they did not -- I can understand that they would not want to be jerks and criticize someone I love, but really, if you have an opinion, sometimes it is helpful to share it.
I am wondering if any of the other uber-smug divorcees had this experience and if so, whether it bugged them.
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Yes, exactly!
But I understand why they didn't say anything. It's really hard to critisize someone's partner without risking alientating yourself. So most of the time, it's best to say nothing. Most of the time.
I learned my bridesmaids talked about whisking me off to Mexico the night before the wedding. If they'd spoken to my father, he would have underwritten the whole kidnapping.
And yet, somehow I wound up married. For almost 6 years.
