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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
Mixed bag for me. I got a lot of grief at the time from my sister (divorced once and now working on number 2) and a friend of mine (now divorced and feels like crap about treating me the way she did at the time) for not staying together.* Like nox4, I guess we put on a pretty good front for them. But since we always got along, just more in a brother-sister sort of way, I guess that makes sense. My growing population of separate friends by the time we separated thought it was the best move ever, but that is to be expected, I think.
No guilt over any of it at this point. I don't think you should fault your friends for keeping quiet. Voicing opinions like that can lead to the demise of a friendship. I have learned that lesson the hard way too (though the only reason I said anything in that case was it was an abusive relationship, at least as reported to me by her; it led to the only public altercation I've ever had with anyone (her asshole ex-boyfriend) in my life).
*this despite the fact that my sister didn't really like him. she is not especially good at the non-judgmental support, it turns out.
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Hmm. This is all very helpful. Thank you, everyone.
I will let it go.
