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Originally posted by Replaced_Texan
This reminds me of an etiquitte question recently asked of me by a male friend of mine. He is notoriously into a variety of kinky shit*, so not much should suprise him, yet this did.
First date (they always are). She's on top. Without asking or warning, she starts choking him. He thinks "ok, I'll try for a little while, I have friends who are into this and they have told me this is awesome." He lets her go for a little while then takes her hands away from his throat. He said it hurt like hell.
The "do you bring your kinks out on the first date" discussion ensued, and everyone agreed that it's probably a good idea to lay it all out there early on so six months into dating, you're not hit with a "I'm into the furries" fetish.
But, should a) bring out your knink on the first date/fuck? and b) isn't it polite to warn someone about the kink before engaging in the kink? Does it depend on the kink?
Frankly, if I were to let someone choke me (and I'd have to think a little about that before it were to happen) it'd have to be someone I trusted, and I don't think most first date/fucks are in that category.
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Yes. get it out there early. don't "warn," it should flow- although you need to know if it is a "deal breaker" if the kink is rejected before you try.
And yes it depends on the kink. If it is behavior that people typically do to kill someone else, you really need to warn, and maybe suggest it as something in the tool box to try at some point in the future. That is, choking is an exception to all of my answers.
