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Originally posted by barely_legal
So, i've pretty much totally outed myself with many of the stories I've told here so here's another piece of outable info: I just got engaged!
So, anybody want to pony up some advice? Preferably amusing advice instead of depressing advice? This will be a first marriage for both of us.
I actually have some etiquette questions that I think I know the answer to but would like some reinforcement. For example, we are going to elope. But I know that people in his family and my family are going to want to buy us wedding gifts even though we're not having a wedding. Would it be tacky to register even if we're not having a wedding? I wouldn't announce to people that we had registered but if people asked me (or my mother), I would let them know. How tacky is this? Where is Debtslave?
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First of all, congratulations.
Second, personally, I think that if you're not going to have a wedding or a reception, then registering is tacky. Because the gift is kind of for being invited to those things.
And here's is the marriage lady's etiquette answer to someone who is eloping and is not having a reception, but a party at their house...
Dear Eloping,
You can register, but your party is not considered a gift giving situation. Gifts are given for the wedding; not the party or reception. However, many guests may want to congratulate you with a gift, so you could register. Just do not inform people of your registry unless they ask.
Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette by Rebecca & Etiquette Now
