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Originally posted by evenodds
Okay, I have been discussing a situation with one of my girlfriends whose birthday is next week.
She has just started dating this new guy. They've been out once or twice, and she likes him.
She'd like to go out with him for her birthday.
Should she remind him that her birthday is next week and hope he steps up? Should she schedule something with him for her birthday, but not tell him it's her birthday? Or something else?
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Out only once or twice? She should invite him out to dinner. She should tell him that it is her birthday because it is very likely to escape at some point during the night and then he will feel like a schmuck for not at least bringing her flowers. She should say that she wants to take him to dinner, that it is her birthday but that she wants to play it low key and just have a nice dinner with him because, well, she believes that she will enjoy spending the time with him. I think this makes it not too overbearing (ie "holy shit, does she want me around on her birthday because she wants to get serious too soon?") yet makes it not a total surprise so that he worries that he was supposed to know and now feels like an idiot for not knowing. Perhaps he will pick up the tab as a birthday gift.
edited -- oops, everyone beat me because I over-thought it.
