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Originally posted by Austintatious
I am not quite sure how to deal with this:
I think my friend just lost his mother a few days ago, but he hasn't said anything to anyone about it.
The story is: my friend (we'll call him "Al") was picking up take-out and chatting with an acquaintance to him, who is a friend of mine (we'll call him "Bill"). Al's cell rang, he talked to his dad, turned to Bill and said: "Wow. My mom just died."
Bill and I had drinks the next night and he asked if I'd talked to Al recently. I hadn't talked to him since the call. Bill told me what happened and said Al seemed a little strange about it and accepted it very calmly.
I called Al's best friend who, after a general inquiry, received a cryptic message about possibly not being available for a party this weekend because he had to take care of something.
Should I call him, or should I interpret this as someone who really doesn't want anyone to know?
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Send a card if you're sure it's true. You don't know the family situation, and it sounds like they may not want to be put on the spot talking about it--out of shock or grief or if there's some other weirdness going on--but they'll expect word to get around and will appreciate your kindness. When he's ready to talk, you'll know--he will just do it.
