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Originally Posted by Replaced_Texan
Really? Were you and your friends that much of assholes when you were a teenagers that you would have sent your girlfriends' picture to each other immediately?
I've talked to a few friends in their 20s and 30s who send and receive naked pictures, and none of them have had any problems resulting from it. I've asked the one friend that I'm particularly close with about it, and she says she's done it with pretty much everyone she's dated in the last seven or so years. It's something she enjoys doing for her partner, especially if they're apart.
I think it's downright douchey to forward those sorts of pictures on. And I put the blame ENTIRELY on the person who forwards rather than the person who sent the photo in the first place.
But of course, we live in a victim blaming society, so it's all the girl's fault.
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I think your last line is misplaced here. I don't want teens I care about (including my son, my niece, etc.) to send naked photos of themselves, because sometimes kids aren't so good at determining if someone is trustworthy. That's not blaming them or assigning fault if they do, just wanting them to protect themselves from assholes -- and from weaknesses in their own ability, as younger people, to figure out who might be, or become, an asshole.
It would be completely douchey and assholic to show a naked picture of a GF, or an ex-GF, to anyone. A complete betrayal of confidence. (This is without regard to whether you go the picture via text, or you just have nekkid photos around.) But people do it. And teenage boys are particularly stupid, careless, and douchey.
By their 20s and 30s, I hope people have a more reliable sense of each other. I have nieces in high school, and nieces in their 30s. I wouldn't tell the latter that they shouldn't sext someone, because I would have a lot more confidence in their judgment. But I would tell that to the teen.
