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Originally posted by bilmore
This one is pretty generally accepted amongst those kinds of people who know such things. Specific cites that I might dredge up would be dated, as I've been out of family law for years, but Google it and I bet you find a ton of stuff about it.
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It may be generally accepted but I can say from personal experiences that it doesn't work that way. Even if there is no out-and-out conflict, the kids know their parents are unhappy and there is tension in the family. You feel the tension between the parents, even when you're very young. It gets to the point when you don't want to be around both parents at the same time. It also makes you unhappy that your parents are so unhappy. You also start taking sides and decide which parent is at fault and why the marriage isn't working. I blamed my father. I had no relationship with my father until after my parents broke up because I thought he was responsible for my mother's unhappiness. I think people think it's better for the parents to stay together for the kids because it is considered to be the ideal. But if the parents are miserable, the family is miserable.
