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Originally posted by bilmore
Unless you are beating each other in front of the kids, I'd have to disagree on this one. Studies are pretty clear that staying together (in the absence of true, out-and-out conflict, of course), results in happier, better-adjusted kids.
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I'm skeptical about these studies. I'm sure they exist, but how does one measure in a study happiness and being well-adjusted? I guess they can ask a bunch of people and base their findings on who is and isn't in therapy, but how do they determine what everyone's household is like? Too many variables.
I can only base my findings on the few friends I have. And it seems like each of them knew their parents didn't like each other (in that way) anymore and always blamed themselves. (And yez, I understand kids tend to blame themselves for their parents divorcing too.) But my friends who are a product of divorce (and there are quite a few), may have gone through some rough times initially, but settled into the new situation nicely. I would imagine being in a household where the love between the parents is long gone is an ongoing pain in the ass (like Not Me).
TM
