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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall
I can only base my findings on the few friends I have.
TM
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Everyone with whom I've had a serious relationship has had divorced parents. I'm not really sure why this is, but I figure it's just a coincidence. Anyway (and this may be an obvious point), the younger it happened, the less it seemed to have affected them. One guy's parent's divorced when he was really little - they then went on to have Elizabeth Taylor-like marriages and divorces. He's one of the most well-adjusted people I know.
At the other extreme is the guy whose parents divorced when he was 18. It's like they stayed together until the youngest (him) was all grown up, then ta-da, divorced. He's pretty fucked up about it. He doesn't know when the marriage ended and the sham began kind of thing. Although he is now married himself and appears happy.
And another thought. I love my parents, but they have the most co-dependent toxic relationship I have ever seen. In fact, most people I know that have been married a very long time seem to have these awful relationships where they totally need each other but all they seem to do is push each other's buttons and display this sort of moldy repetitive habitual behavior. They appear stuck in huge ruts. Sad that. I hope to be married for a long time but I hope someone kills me before I start acting like that.
