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Originally posted by leagleaze
And what will I call this woman while we are in the process of getting domestic partnered? I mean do I call her my fiance? My soon to be DP? Hi Hank, meet my soon to be DP, Bunny. We are registered at Pottery Barn. We really need plates. We are also registered at Good Vibrations. We really need a strap-on. Stay away from the Lennox though please.
And will I be a Mrs. then? Or can I stay a Ms? And do I need to get an engagement ring, or can I just wear a wedding band?
Help me Debt Slave, please help me. Maybe we should write a book to answer all these questions so everyone knows now, before it gets out of control?
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I wanted more sex in that sleazy pulp story, but o well.
We should write a book. You don't need to register. One of you doesn't have to wear a "ladies tux" or other abomination. You don't need attendants in matching polyester pastels. You don't need to be walked down the aisle or given away. You never, ever, have to discuss your reproductive plans or capacities with anyone.
So far as I am concerned, you may call her your fiancee, or by her name, as you (and she) wish, or can say you are "engaged to be domestic partners" if you don't want to invoke M-related words (or if NJ comes up with some non-marriage alternative). You won't be a Mrs., on US courtesy title conventions, unless you use your spouse's full name (you would become "Mrs. Bunny Lastname"), so you would remain "Ms." under traditional conventions anyway. You don't need to take each other's name. You don't need an engagement ring, or even a wedding band, unless you want one.
All you need to get married, or domestic partnered, is a consenting partner and a license. With how slow and backward the states are on the licensing part I nearly consider that optional.
