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Originally posted by barely_legal
This is a serious question, so while I know I'll get the usual number of smart-ass responses, I would like at least a few serious responses sprinkled in (I know I can count on NB and RT for that, at least).
What's the best way of telling a guy that he's an awful kisser? I've gone out with this guy a few times, and I like him, but he is the worst kisser in the world. I'm not exaggerating, THE WORLD. His kissing technique is so bad that I've considered just not going out with him again and blaming a lack of "chemistry", but I've decided to try to act like a grown up instead and actually talk to him about it.
Guys, how would you like a girl to tell you that your kissing turns her off? How can I say it so that he will listen and adjust, but so that he doesn't hate me? I've never had to deal with this before. Girls, have you ever been successful at getting a guy to change his kissing technique? If so, how?
If it makes a difference, his technique is bad b/c it consists solely of licking my lips (ew ew ew) and then jamming his massive tongue down my throat. That's it. That's the sum total of how he kisses. If I knew for a fact that he would always kiss like that and would never change, I would gladly break up with him right now rather than endure another one of those kisses. But everything else about his seems great so far, so I'm hoping that maybe he can just be re-trained.
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If I were on a mission to re-train, I'd show him how it's done. I'd say something like, "honey, let me show you what really turns me on." I'd tell him to be perfectly still, mouth slightly open, and tell him not to move. Then I'd kiss the hell out of him, not using my tongue at all. If the tongue moved or reacted even a little I'd pull back and make him be still again and then start over from scratch. When he could kiss me back without getting his tongue down my throat, I'd let him try to kiss me while I didn't move. If the tongue got even a little play, I'd move away and make him start over.
Of course, it's very likely using this technique that you'll go a little further than you intended to.
