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Originally posted by str8outavannuys
Based on what you've related (and no idea if it's true with them, but this post is about the general, not the specific), this sounds to me like this woman thought she could change her fiance/husband. This is a long-standing trope in western culture, and women are successful at it often enough to reinforce it. I think it's repugnant, and leads to a lot of women making bad choices. Maybe it's part of a rationalization process that the brain undertakes in order to (a) assauge the primal fear of ending up alone; and (b) deny/conceal from themself that the reason they're going to marry someone wrong for them is (a).
By the time intelligent people hit marriage age (25?), they should (and deep down, they do) know whether they want children or not, or they at least know that they haven't made up their mind. I think that it's ok to change one's mind on this around age 14-20, but by 25 you should be ready to commit to breed or not breed, or at least know that you're not certain. And you should pair up accordingly.
The whole "when i got married, I knew I didn't want children, and now I know the opposite" thing is, in a word, bullshit. Adults don't pull 180 degree turns about their most fundamental beliefs of who they are. At least, not without major life-altering experiences.
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1. I don't think anyone hides fear of dying alone as a basis for marriage. Its there for a lot of people - they just don't admit it.
2. Fear of death and sexual desires/needs/frustrations together drive about 99.9% of human bahavior.
3. People don't know shit when they're 25. You never much of anything until you're pretty damn old, and even then you're just scratching the tip of the iceberg.
4. Your last sentence might be the stupidest thing I've seen on this board, my own shock-value rants included.
